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this article page no Ahhh jumping the
broom. Its not for everyone but its manageable if you have the right
information. I was completely caught off guard by some of the situations Ive
encountered in nearly eleven years of holy matrimony and if youre not prepared
youll be running full speed ahead back to the single life. Fortunately my
husband and I loved each other enough to pull our family together and live
happily ever after. You say you want happily ever after also? Well I submit to
you a list of valuable lessons Ive learned throughout the years. Of course I
cant really promise you eternal love but a few of these tips will save you from
unnecessary suffering guaranteed. *Be crowned the king/queen of two-timing
BEFORE you commit In other words its so much easier to play the field while
youre single instead of getting married and deciding you want to see a whole
lot of other people. Seems like this would be easy to figure out right? Well
apparently its not. Some people dont realize the big mess theyve created until
its way too late and theyre unable to come back from it. Can you say Alimony
monthly child-support payments and a second job to support yourself? Not to
mention various sexually transmitted diseases some fatal. *Marry someone you
are also friends with. Declare to spend the rest of your life with someone who
really likes you as a person not just as a sexual partner. Sometimes sex will
be nonexistent for short periods of time (pregnancy illness). If you and your
better half like each other as well as love each other the foundation that was
built on friendship will be more than enough to get you through those rough
patches. Besides being best friends with your spouse makes marriage so much
more fun! *Dont put your spouse on a pedestal Everyone makes mistakes so leave
room for plenty of them. If youre looking for the perfect spouse and marriage
youre probably living in a fantasy world. Simple rules apply in our vows but we
all act a little human sometimes and vows become the hardest thing in the world
to stick to. This is to be expected so try not to come down too hard on your
other half for not being a saint at all times and the two of you will be just
fine. *Leave the past in the past Geez are you still nagging about all those
awful things that happened three years ago. Get over it. No one wants to hear
the remix of how much of a jackass they used to be especially when you all
agreed to work it out and things are going great. If you just cant stop bringing
it up every five minutes maybe its time to seek counseling. Otherwise
concentrate on the good things and push forward. *Put your spouse and children
first Nothing is going to send you to divorce court faster than in-law drama. I
know you want everyone to get along but understand that you are not responsible
for your mother father or siblings happiness. Your main responsibility is to
keep your house in order. If your parents and siblings cant get with the
program be prepared to take a hiatus from them until they have learned to
respect you and your mate. If something in them forbids them to do so stay true
to the one who really matters and that should be you. If you truly want a
successful marriage sometimes you have to learn to love from a distance. *Never
disrespect your home You already know your family hates your husband/wife so
stop going to them and talking behind his or her back whenever you two have an
argument. One it just makes your family loathe your spouse even more and two
your marriage is on the wrong track if youre pouring salt on your significant
other. Also keep your house a home by not having the wrong people coming and
going. This is bad for any relationship married or not. Keep the drama
queen/king out of your house theyre only looking to start trouble. *Keep
marital advice from someone who isnt married to a minimum Realistically you
probably shouldnt take marital advice from someone who has never been married
just like you probably shouldnt take childrearing advice from someone who
doesnt have kids. I know it sounds a little harsh but it makes sense. Would you
take flight instruction from someone who has never even had flight training? I
wouldnt. In my experience my unmarried friends have never said anything that
could help my marriage. (Sorry guys I know you tried but...) Personally I like
to seek advice from older experienced couples. There is no better way to
prepare for marital warfare than to get guidance from someone who has already
been in combat and survived. *Support your husband or wifes endeavors Why do
you shoot down every idea your sweetie comes up with? Will it really kill you
to be supportive for once? No one will exist on a single thought for the rest
of their lives. Realize that people grow and with growth comes change. Its understandable
your spouse has aspirations outside of going to work and paying bills. Is your
opposing attitude holding him back from starting that small business? Are you
laughing her away from her dream of becoming an actress? Be supportive of your
life companions dreams because if it works out for them it will really work out
for you. *Keep passion alive! She used to wear sexy boy shorts while the two of
you were dating but since youve been married and had two children all shes worn
to bed are her gigantic granny bloomers. He used to say something flattering to
you everyday but now he barely notices you. These are common complaints and it
can wreak havoc in a marriage. Life is busy and we all get weary from our
day-to-day affairs but just remember to take a little time out to spoil your
spouse every once in a while. Let them know that you havent forgotten about
them and you appreciate all of their efforts. Show them that you are still the
person they fell in love with even though life can get in the way. Your partner
will surely return the favor. *Communicate often Talk to your spouse everyday
about something other than the kids the house and the bills. Even if you dont
spend a lot of time in the house together a cell phone will solve that problem.
Be sure to get some time to yourselves go out on a date every once in a while
or just snuggle on the couch and talk about constructive things. In my opinion
communication is the key to a successful marriage. Who wants to spend the rest
of their life with someone who wont even talk? Who wants to have a disagreement
but not be able to discuss it intelligently? Im a huge fan of heated
discussions. At least were communicating not going in a room slamming the door
and stewing for hours. Lets hash it out get it over with and make up. And who
doesnt like making up? Wink. Dont forget to *Pray! Pray everyday for your
marriage your home and children. Prayer can bring reassurance and ease your
mind when things go haywire. Do you know what would be even better? Pray
together. You already know the saying “the family that prays together stays
together!
Published this article page no Some of these signs of a cheating spouse
are "tongue in cheek" while others are tell tale signs that commonly
appear with a cheating husband or cheating wife. There is no copyright. Feel
free to forward to those who might be interested. But please dont change
anything. Signs of a Cheating Spouse 1) You find birth-control pills in her
medicine cabinet and youve had a vasectomy. 2) Mutual friends start acting
strangely toward you. (They either know about the cheating or have been told
stories about what a horrible wife or girlfriend you are.) 3) Your cheating
husband or wife stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you. 4) Sets up
a new e-mail account and doesnt tell you about it. 5) He leaves the house in
the morning smelling like Irish Spring and returns in the evening smelling like
Safeguard. 6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous workout program. 7) She
buys a cell phone and doesnt let you know. 8) He sets up a separate cell phone
account that is billed to his office. 9) The cheating husband carries condoms
and you are on the pill. 10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the
caller ID. 11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate. 12)
He becomes "accusatory" asking if you are being true to him usually
out of guilt. 13) Raises hypothetical questions such as "Do you think its
possible to love more than one person at a time?" 14) He buys himself new
underwear. 15) He insists the child seat toys etc. are kept out of his car. 16)
The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding ring. 17) Has a sudden desire to be
helpful with the laundry. 18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on his or
her neck or back. 19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques. 20) He/she
fairly suddenly stops having sex with you. 21) He/she suddenly wants more sex
more often. 22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime but it never shows up on the
pay stub. 23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the house. 24) You find out
by accident he or she took vacation day or personal time off from work - but
supposedly worked on those days. 25) Shows a sudden interest in a different
type of music. 26) Spouses co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence. 27)
Has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance. 28) Spends an excessive
amount of time on the computer especially after you have gone to bed. 29) He
throws up a lot because he just ate at his mistresss house and had to eat the
dinner you prepared when he got home. 30) Your spouse is away from home either
nights or on trips more than previously. 31) His/her clothes smell of an
unfamiliar perfume or after-shave. You see lipstick on your husbands shirt. 32)
The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off. 33)
You find items of intimate apparel or other small gift-type items that you did
not give your spouse. 34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is
"touchy" and easily moved to anger. 35) You get calls where the
caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice. 36) He/she loses attention in
the activities in the home. 37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you that
something is not right. 38) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards
everyone in the home. 39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs
up quickly. 40) She has a "glow" about her. 41) Atypical erratic
behavior. 42) He sneaks out of the house. 43) She sleeps with her purse by the
bed. 44) She goes to the store for groceries and comes home 5 hours later. 45)
He tells you that you can get hold of him at a different telephone number. 46)
The telltale sign of a cheating spouse? Having to ask that question in the
first place. banking
services chronicle may 2020
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